a resistor with the value calculated as 1k per volt (1 milliamp current) will discharge the cap to 37% of the original voltage in 100 seconds, and to about 1% in 500 seconds. a similar thing is done with high voltage power supplies, the 10M resistor built in on microwave oven capacitors discharges the 2500 volts to less than 50V in the time that it takes to remove the topcover of the oven (actually the cap is at less than 50 volts within 5-10 seconds (assuming the resistor hasn't gone open circuit, which is why the cap should always be discharged with a grounded screwdriver).
for a permanent bleeder resistor, always calculate the amount of power the resistor will dissipate, and pick a resistor wattage at least twice the result. a 100,000uf cap charged to 25V can ruin a good screwdriver, so a bleeder resistor will save you money in the future.
so, using the example of 100,000uF@25V, using a bleeder of 2500 ohms, would drain at an initial rate of 10mA, and would discharge the cap to about 1% in 50 seconds. 10mA @ 25V is 0.25W, so a half watt resistor would work here. 10mA is almost nothing to a power supply using such a large capacitor (the charging current for the cap is likely to be several amperes at least), so the bleeder resistor will not have an adverse effect on the power supply (in power supplies for vacuum tubes, a bleeder can draw enough current that it adds some ripple to the output).
as an indicator, you could always parallel an LED and current limiting resistor across the cap to indicate whether the cap is charged or not (this could be another branch that helps discharge the cap, as many LEDs are happy between 10 and 50mA).