Ooh, more ideas! Thanks. Well I've ordered a cd4059 so I can either go with my old 3.2768 Crystal (found another crystal with legs) - that will probably be accurate for the 6months between bst and gmt changes anyway. Or i can get one of those rtc will 1pps outputs.
As for the pulse requirements: it just pulls in at 5.6v, pulls in at 6v but takes over 0.75secs, or at 12v it works in ~ 0.2 secs. Above 12v it seems to be a bit too energetic for my liking. Coil is 44ohms and I've no idea what the design pulse is supposed to be.