Oh, I know exactly what it is that's causing me to get riled up so easily. It is primarily due to a lack of people to hang out with- both guys and girls. All the guys are out of town for the summer working and all the girls are back home for the summer and with no venues to meet new people of any kind I'm kinda stuck. There are no venues around here other than school (which is out for the summer- quality girls but hard to get to know) and one bar (more alcohol? plus not so quality girls) to meet the people I'm interested in. And most any social place (ie. like a bar) or anything really doesn't seem to go over so well if you don't have at least one friend to come with you in the first place. Yes, I've tried it. Yes, I've tried it several times . No, I won't try it again.
Lack of guys around isn't really a problem in itself, but no guys means no distractions or support.
I've been like that for the last two years since I finished college.
I only have one friend who I see about once a month, I don't mind being on my own but I do get quite bored. I have joined a couple of clubs but I haven't really found anyone who is single and have something in common with, either male of female.
I don't drink much as I don't go out much. I don't really have much motivation in general and spend most of my free time on forums like this one - they're pretty adicitve.
I've tried going traveling and doing other things which have improved my confidence but I always get hooked on the Internet when I get back home. I don't know whether this is good or bad. I supose it makes me feel happy to have helped people on forums like this one.
THe fightin' spirit isn't what I have a problem with. It's the inevitable crash that occurs after a lot of effort with zero progress. Being disenchanted after the way some (or should I say most) of the way girls have behaved doesn't help either. You should NEVER forsake honesty for politeness. Part of the problem is I grew up "in the incorrect neighborhood" as well as the "wrong side of the city" and went to "the wrong schools" so my social circle has absolutely zero connections with the social circle of interest which would make things much easier. Actually, that's false. There are two distant connections, but they're both racist as far as guy-girl matters go, so no thanks.
I agree with arrie here about prejustice but we all have it.
As far as the honesty vs politeness thing is concerned, it depends on the situation often you might think it's rude to be honest even though it's the best policy for both parties.
For example, you're staying with a group of people and someone cooks you something you don't like. You could do the polite thing and pretent you like it or be honest and say you don't like it. What I would do is eat the meal and then say I wasn't that keen on it. This is better for me because they know I didn't like it so won't cook me it again and it's better for them because they know I'm being truely honest when I say something positive about thier cooking.
However, if somone has a big nose or big ears, poking fun at them won't help you or them it'd be just being rude for the sake of it.
I admit I can be sometimes rude, I don't mean to be I can just often be a bit abrupt in the way I say things but this can be a good as well as a bad thing.
Lol, I remember when someone in the Ukraine asked me if I like lard, "Lard? You mean fat?" I said, they said "Yes, pork fat.", I said "That sounds totally disgusting!", they said "Well it's our national dish.", I thought to my self "Whoops I might have offended them.", I just smilled and luckily they didn't seem too offended.
THese new braces don't help either.
Don't worry, it's a temporary thing, when they're gone you might actually receive complements about your nice teeth.
I expect the problem to self-correct when school starts again and everyone gets back, or the next time everyone gathers together for a party. Seems people complain that I don't drink at parties- probably because there are actual people to hang out with.
We'll see how orange juice suffices as a substitute for the next 3 weekends. I had some last week while watching a concert and I thought "Hey, this stuff is really satisfying. And it seems that I can drink a bunch of it and not get sick from all the liquid like I normally do." We'll also see if this riling up will make me feel like doing something about it. I got tired of all the futile effort the last time though.
At least your problem will go away, I'll just have to keep tying to motivate myself to try new things or I'll end up living with my parents for the rest of my life and that would be sad.