This is a very personal decision. You talked about lists of pros and cons, but even these lists are very subjective. You can't "really" be objective at all, let alone on something like that.
The best you can get in a thread like that is people talking about why "THEY" work on the the things they work on, not which should you learn. That's for you to chose from the things you read.
For instance, I am a beginner in PICs and PCBs and that sort of things. Personally, I really do not like "kits" and "developement boards". Don't ask me "Why" as I do not have a logical answer for that, it's just deeply ingrained in me. Hell, almost the first thing I do when I buy an electronic device is to void the warranty. I LIKE to read datasheets and learn assembly because I find it fascinating that there is nothing lost in translation
... So this sort of excludes almost anything that is not a bare bone chip, that's why I don't work with kits.. For NOW.. But I'll probably buy some of them to tinker with them... Because I like to touch stuff.
But many people do very well with kits for beginning.
Now as to the question to which to chose ? Whatever suits your needs. Whatever spikes your interest. I had a project recently so I learned EAGLE (because I find it easy and intuitive and have printed, read and annotated its 72 page manual). And came to this board to get feedback from perfectionnists. The project involved PICs, and I found here all the help I needed to dispel ambiguities.
So, chose what excites you, what fits your personality and as the others said, what has a community around it.. But having a community is the case of any interesting device... So chose the one that really turns you on and suits your personality. There are plenty of fora to support any choice.
Remember, you are not a special flower
.. There are more than 6 billion people on this planet .. Even if you're special enough to be 1 in a million .. There are still 6 thousands like you. That's enough for a forum, so chose what excites you