Brian, it sounds like you are looking for an easy fix and are pretty easily disappointed and discouraged. You kind of turn up your nose at suggestions that would make you do something you don't really want to do or go somewhere you don't want to go even if they sound like pretty good opportunities to get your foot in the door.
May I ask what sorts of projects and special studies you were doing as you were attending school that would get you glowing recommendations from your instructors? Or, what sorts of jobs you were doing to gain experience as you were in school to demonstrate enthusiasm and a willingness to take jobs for the experience?
With the possible exceptions of the whiz-kids that come out of Stanford and MIT and other top engineering schools, we all have war stories about getting started in electronics. I wont bore you with mine but, trust me, I got 'em.