It can help, personally I usually simply tin the pad and then solder the component to it.
But you
MUST use the correct solder, the correct flux (if you're using extra flux), and a proper soldering iron with a very fine bit. If you're soldering multi-pin IC's then flooding the pins with flux allows you to drag a spoon shaped bit full of solder across all the pins, and solder them all in a single operation - Pace, for example, make special bits for that purpose.
The pictures you posted of the remote control looks like you used one of the irons in JimB's picture above
This is the sort of bit you might be looking at for simple SM work?