Ok so answer this... if i use a 12v regulator with a low dropout voltage...
1. Would it work? (drop out is 0.6v @150mA which is the max 0.2v @ 10mA)
The output is 12V plus and minus 4%. The battery must be at least about 0.5V higher than the output.
2. would i need a resistor since the leds add up to 12V?
You didn't measure the current so with 12.0V the LEDs might be ready to burn out. The voltage of LEDs changes when the temperature changes then their current will also change and maybe cause them to burn out or not light.
LEDs
ALWAYS need a current-limiting resistor.
3. if i do need a resistor ... how would i calculate it? I applied 12v here to 3 leds in series and they each show 4v dropout... 1 was 3.9v and 2 was 4v
The regulator voltage is too low or the voltage of your LEDs is too high.
You measured only 3 LEDs and the rest of them might have lower voltages.
Use 2 LEDs in series then their total voltage is 7.9V or 8V. The current-limiting resistor is (12V - 8V)/20mA= 200 ohms and the current will barely change if the regulator voltage is plus and minus 4% and will also barely change when the temperature changes.
If the LEDs are actually only 3.4V then their current will be (12V - 6.8V)/200 ohms= 26mA which is fine.
If the LEDs are actually 3.0V then their current will be 30mA which is high but is allowed on the datasheet. The 200 ohm resistor will barely get warm.
Regulators have a dropout voltage.
LEDs have a forward voltage drop.