Some thoughts.
First and foremost you need protection from circuit failure causing the
downstream amp from going to max volume, possibly damaging speakers.
Second mic approach means all sources within pickup area, not just the
primary amp, will be a factor in determining secondary amps volume. Is
that desirable or a non consideration ?
Third the relationship between primary amp volume and secondary, eg. the
transfer function of the solution, wants to be linear. What level of distortion
are you targeting as a goal ? Optocoupler, because input to it is I-V relationship
of a diode, logarithmic, has to be "linearized". A consideration, but not a big issue.
The link can be optical or WiFi (simple link, non router involved, like ESP8266 or
ESP32 on each end). ESP-NOW protocol fairly fast, in mS area -
https://github.com/espressif/esp-now/blob/master/User_Guide.md
You will need to develop power for each end of link/solution circuits, battery or AC line,
like walwarts ?
Can you use/program processors or is this targeted to an all discrete design, opamps,
transistors........ ?
Regards, Dana.