I dont see what looks like a "stiff" ground in the system for starters. Are your amps
also dumping their power into that star ground ? "Normally" one creates, in an
analog system with small signals and power switching, a ground for the low level
signal circuits and one for the power, and join them where they come into the
chassis as a single point ground. Eg. connect the grounds together as close as
possible to the source, in your case the entry to chassis.
Your scope, where are you monitoring noise, for the 12V supply to the star ground ?
Curious, have you done that with scope set to single shot, edge trigger, say 12.5V,
sweep start at 1 uS, acquisition say 100 MSPS, and see what you get. Might be
significantly larger that you are aware.
You could always consider a time delay relay that keeps a ground on inputs
until relays and power settles, then lift the input grounds. When switching small
signals one usually uses signal type relays, like the ones found in scopes.
Relay noise is predominantly off cycle where large V transients occur. So sounds like
inputs are picking up control signals either from ground drops or parasitic C
coupling....., using scope, look at each circuit, one at a time, the other disabled, to
get clues about noise origin....just a thought.
What is the model # of your scope ?
Google this "mixed signal grounding pdf" for some guidelines.
Regards, Dana.