Never say die!!!!
I don't think putting a manual switch on the LCD display is going to work, I did take the DVR apart but as you can see from the photos, it's the usual ribbon/tape connection to the display, which I would destroy if I put a soldering iron anywhere near it!!
I think there is an electronic circuit solution to this problem, now I've had time to think about it.
Initial trigger takes unit out of standby mode, additional triggers start recording.
The additional trigger we have already sussed using the dual timer.
But I need to start recording on the initial trigger.
So what is needed is a start/stop pulse to take the DVR out of standby to prepare it for the subsequent trigger recording sequence.
I figure as a signal it would look like 0v (approx 1 second) 3.8v (approx 1 second) then 0v from the dual timer circuit until motion sensed/delay is completed. Which I guess would call for yet another 555 timer!!!
Then the next motion to trigger after everything finishes recording would need to commence back at the 0v to 3.8v then dual timer sequence.
If you need me to explain that more clearly, feel free to ask BrownOut.
I think it's with persevering having come this far!!
Attached are the photos of the internals.. right before I took a lump hammer to the whole thing