I would say the primary side is the one with three pins. The center pin would be the center-tap of the primary. You should get equal inductance both halves ... center to one outside and then center to the other outside. The secondary should be the two pin side.
Being from a cordless phone, I would suspect the inductances to be low. If you know the model number you could get an idea of the frequencies being used. You might want to bag your components that you can't readily identify with where you harvested them. If you remember the model number, you might find a schematic to aid in identification.
Finally, since your questioning your meter, you might want to devise a circuit to test the inductance.