I figured it out!
Originally when i set this whole thing up, i ran a long wire to my kill switch on my passenger side, but at the time I did not have a way to get a soldering iron out to my car (i lived in a condo) so i used these little automtive peices (shown below) to splice the wire going to the switch and to also splice the wire coming from the switch.. I remember having a little issue with these at first, but they worked okay for a few months.. But these were the problem becuase i cut them off the wires and simply twisted the wires together and viola! the whole thing works great again. It's true I do still have the 'crimp down' type of auto motive connectors being used from the glove box light down to the unit still, but i am hoping those wont have the same issues these little peices of crap did.
For the time being I am leaving the wires all twisted together untill i can get to a friends house and use an extension cord from his guarage to properly soldier the stuff together. First things first though, i'm gonna need a new car battery i think. I still cant get it to turn over. (although everything else works great, the stereo, the alarm, the lights.
but anyways I wanted to say thank you to all the Electro community who helped me troubleshoot this and espically to 4pyros. Thank you sooo much for your time and suggestions that ultimately led to the solution to this problem! I shoulda came here right when it failed! Thanks again!!!
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