So let's go back to the beginning here, and what I think the story may be.
The nozzle requires 12 volts to activate it. Originally, it was operated via a momentary push button switch. Press the button, and it's on, release the button and it's off. This seems like the likely scenario.
So why not replace the momentary push button with a push-on / push-off button and eliminate the latching relay and all the rest? That seems like a needlessly complex and potentially unreliable solution that depends on using a switch that doesn't exist.