Most of the time, connectors release from the front. DB-25's are an exception. There is noway you can do anything from the pin side.
You have a slotted tube, where the slot is where the wire enters. The tool is somewhat limited lifetime.
Then there is the flat tool which looks like what this uses.
My favorite is the AMP CPC connector. You insert a tool that surrounds the pin and push a plunger. Effortless.
It's like the Molex PC power supply connectors, but more effortless,