AG, I'm pleased that you have had a happy life and made the right choice for yourself.
You had a feeling you were compatible with your future wife when you met, but you didn't have her datasheet and all the laws of physical/mental/emotional attraction to hand prior to that, did you?
The part highlighted in bold above shows that this was your 'resistance box' and it wasn't until you discovered your future wife, that you found the correct value for you.
OP may not have all the laws, knowledge and datasheets to hand, to calculate exactly what he/she needs, so we help out and set up a couple of dates...