Hi axro,
the relay I mentioned is a FINDER 40.61 DSDT latching relay using one coil. To trigger the relay it requires a short pulse (pushbutton) to energize the coil, which will stay (latched) in position when the trigger signal is removed. To reverse switching the coil must be engerized with reversed polarity, also using a pushbutton.
The Anti-Stanby-Switch involves circuitry to determine if a connected device is in operation or in standby-mode (still consuming electric power) by measuring current. If the device has been switched to stand-by mode the circuit will remove power completely after a presettable time period.
The bistable (latching relay) is only available for coil voltages of 12 and 24V. Using 9V the relay should work properly.
Attached is the English version of the 40.61 relay datasheet.
You might also search for devices known as "ELTACO" in Germany. They are operated with a single pushbutton using mains power and toggle the connected device on and off, using power only the moment they are activated. (They are commonly used to switch on and off the hall light from different locations.) Check with your local electrician who does home electric service as new installation.
Boncuk
P.S. The FINDER 40.61.6 12V is €5.25 (US$7.10)