Ok, I think this isn't going to work without a relay. I have some JD2-1A relays on an old microwave circuit board I could use to try.
They are 12V 16A 2125/240VAC. Not sure if they're suitable or would work as a test.
Now, I know you're gonna kill me. I think I got the wrong optoisolator
The circuit says 4n25 or 4N33. These are six pin, led +/-, collector, emitter
and base
The one I got was a 4 pin, led +/- and collector/emitter.
I'm thinking the base assists with full switchover. Gonna get one to try.