Fida,
well, it may sound like a "small" project to you, but
if you want to use RF or at least IR remote control
it is a big project to develop from scratch.
Have you looked at your local electronics store if
there is something available ?
If you go the RF way, better use a ready made module
like this one
**broken link removed**
and use µC to control everything.
Sidenote: I like analog circuitry, but since the µC-way
is mostly (nowadays) easier, just go for that.
Learn how to program PIC or BETTER ATMEL µC, since
the ATMEL µC's can be programmed via GCC.
Cheers,
Hannes