A lot of ebay and amazon sellers list those relays as "Arduino Relay Module" or just "Arduino Relay". Search for those terms, you will find lots of them. Make sure they are 12V, and based on your description, you have to find one that has "active high" properties. Most of the Arduino relays are active "low", not high. There are several that have both high or low activation.
High activation means you supply +5V or +12V (depends on relay design) to the control pin to activate the relay. That may be an issue with 12V, you have to check. The active "low" relays (most common) are activated when you supply a ground to the control pin.