first the led ... as you want to use IR led, you can use SMD ir led on the gloves (outside) as well as inside as most materials are transparent to IR. ... you want to go with SMD as it is smaller ..
second, the on/off
you can go full on and full off with a simple battery + resistor + switch ... resistor is there to limit the current, battery is there to give power and switch there is to turn it on/off ... you can find small tactile switches you can embed into fingertips .... donno what "additional details" to give you .. just find the small switch, the small led and a battery ... if you go with button cell batteries you do not even need a resistor as they have internal resistance big enough not to output more then 10mA ...
you can also go off to partly on to full on with resistive foil. you can find resistive foil that changes resistance on pressure ... for example the packaging black foam IC's are "push into" when you purchase them has those properties.... I just tested it, 2M unpressed and 200K pressed ... on a 1cm part I tried .. you can feed the current trough it and power the led, pressing harder will turn the led on "more" .... you can find commercially available materials easier to use then this, but this is something you probably have lying around..
now, you can make everything more complex, add uC to the glove, encoders to monitor angle of the fingers, pressure transducers, RF send the data to your "central unit" .. use uC to turn the led's on/off ... but, the simple microswithc should do the job