I would be willing to help but i recommend you start learning by using Nigels tutorials like get your hands on a couple of 16F628's at least 2 - 3
1 - 16F628 is for IR Transmitter
1 - 16F628 is for IR Receiver
1 - 16F628 is a spare
You dont have to build his tutorials exactly as him but a good choice would be to copy his and modify it since you are a beginner(i am also a beginner) but i understand enough now to help others i guess.
You need to make a list of things like be organized. What do you want to control exactly..
How many lights?
Im not sure how to do the dimming part i would love to know that. Me being new i would have done something stupid (creative) like putting a stepper motor on a normal dimmer.
If you just follow his tutorial and ask question you will find it easier. Trust me. You can ask questions when you need help and i will help and many others without hesitation.
So i guess its shopping time.
Go here and make a part list you need to make 2 of these
and 2 of these
We all will be here to help you along the way just get stuff ready ok
EDIT:
Like 3v0 said you could always use an existing remote like a Universal Remote you can buy for like $6 at most places. And just make the Receiver.