A six-pin connector would suggest 2 wires to motor, and 2 pairs of wires to the limit switches.
Can you post ANYTHING such as a pic of the PCB, terminal designations, link to a page etc, operating instructions. ANYTHING?
I ordered one of these:
http://www.tauntek.com/tinyir-learning-ir-remote-control-receiver.htm, but never hooked it up for my intended purpose. It might be beyound you to use. This could use the TV-ON and TV-OFF signals to operate lifts.
Another idea, is to use a current detector and detect when the TV comes on. They may just require a wrap or two of one leg of the AC cord.
The big problem is figuring out what's needed. The above is a way of making it work, but this also assumes that there is an IR repeater in the mix too.
There are so many ways to control what you have and it's hard to guess.
There is potentiometer feedback
There is hall effect pulses
There are reed switch pulses
There is sometimes an internal limit switch and an adjustible stroke, but no external switches.
There could be pulse to open, pulse to reverse if opening, pulse to close. etc.
There could be an ON and it goes to a limit and off and it goes to another.
You seem to have issues if they are not activated at the same time.
Overloads?
In this scenereo, I might envision the following:
1. Suppose you had a switch or switches that had UP or DOWN and that the actuators continued until the limit was reached.
2. Then you could use the current detect method on the TV.
3. Have an IR repeater hidden so that that the TV gets turns on when hidden.
So that could work for you.
Have an override manual mechanism to move the actuators manually.