PLEASE confirm that this is what you are using , I am followin this link:
**broken link removed**
according to this:
the function for the remote control:
Up: increase brightness
Down: decrease brightness
Off: Power off
On: Turn on Power
R: change color to red
G: Switch to green color
B: change color to blue
FLASH: color changing automatically, quickly jump
STROBE: automatically change color, gentle jump
FADE: automatic color change, gradually move quickly
SMOOTH: automatic color change, gradually move smoothly
soo the remote can only control them all at once,
FEATURES:
* Cuttable every 3 LEDs along the cutting marks, according to pratical requirement.
I believe that is because there are 3 RGB's per cut wired for 12v rails (there are 4 rails: 1power, then one ground for each color)
i could be wrong but, im sorry to say that you will not be able to just hook it up and run it the way you want, you could possibly salvage the LED' s but you will need cut and solder almost every single LED into your own array, which could get complicated as well, depending on the grid dimensions,
the difference is that in your leds you have little resistors all over, in the demo he has micro controller on every few leds to control with an I2C bus
the circuit you are looking at in your post will work to control full strips only,
here is an idea of how you will need to do to rewire each strip, to control each single led, actually technically the top row is already there, so you just need to solder in the "numbers going vertical(wires going horizontal)"
http://www.franksworkshop.com.au/Electronics/RGB/RGB.htm
also you will probably need to add transistors to control circuit..... and your own code