It is often easier to use an oscillator (not a crystal) and connect the output of that to the "osc in" connection on the microcontroller. Leave the "osc out" connection open, or it may be possible to configure the microcontroller to use that for something else.
The oscillator will have a power and ground connection, which should be decoupled like any IC, and that's all you have to think about.
If you do use a crystal, its "load capacitance" isn't like anything else that would be called a load capacitance. Crystals are mechanical resonators, and they can be considered to be a series tuned circuit of a huge inductance and a tiny capacitor, typically measured in femtofarads. At resonance, the crystal has its lowest impedance. At a slightly higher frequency, the crystal will be inductive, and at a lower frequency it will be capacitive.
It's often easiest to make an oscillator circuit with capacitors, as they are cheaper and have lower losses than inductors, so it is convenient to run the crystal slightly above it's resonant frequency, so that it is inductive, and that is balanced by the capacitance of the oscillator circuit. Because of this, crystals are adjusted to be at their marked frequency when in series with a capacitor whose value is the load capacitance.
For instance, if you buy a 10 MHz crystal with a 30 pF load, the crystal will have its lowest impedance at less than 10 MHz, probably around 9.99 MHz (but that will vary a lot, even within one batch of crystals). The series combination of the crystal and a 30 pF capacitor will have its lowest impedance at 10 MHz, give or take the adjustment tolerance which might be +/- 10 ppm or 100 Hz.
If you do use the wrong load capacitance, the frequency will be wrong, but often not by a lot.
You also then get into making sure that the oscillator starts OK, and is not affected too badly by external influences. Changing the capacitance to get the frequency correct can result in the oscillator not starting.
Or buy a packaged oscillator.
Here is an oscillator from Mouser:-
https://www.mouser.co.uk/ProductDetail/ECS/ECS-5032MV-80-CN-TR?qs=sGAEpiMZZMsBj6bBr9Q9aZiWbAMN9VKZUxkawuN%2BEp6/M53T38lyag==
The maximum output load of 15 pF in the datasheet for that is the same idea as the maximum load capacitance for any logic output. The output voltage levels and rise and fall times are quoted up to that capacitance. You don't need to add any capacitance, as the value is a maximum.