What can I do to stop high reflected power in my station
do you mean high SWR? high SWR is a sign of a mismatched antenna, either it's cut to the wrong length, or it doesn't have the right feedpoint impedance for the transmitter and transmission line (actually problems with the transmission line will also show up as reflected power).
so, if you have a transmitter with 50 ohm output impedance, and 50 ohm coax cable, and a normal center fed dipole cut to the correct length (1/4 wavelength for each half) it should be close to being matched. "usable SWR" is usually considered to be 3:1 or anything less (1.1:1 or 1.2:1 usually being about the best you can get) for solid state transmitters (some will balk at 3:1, but are okay below 2.5:1). tube type transmitters are a bit more forgiving, and i remember seeing people writing in QST a long time ago, that 5:1 was good enough for most tube type transmitters.
so, problems that will cause high SWR:
1) 50 ohm transmitter and 50 ohm cable and 300 ohm antenna (like a folded dipole, which is cut to the correct length to be resonant, but has a 300 ohm feedpoint impedance, corrected by using a balun between transmission line and antenna to match the impedance
2) 50 ohm transmitter, 50 ohm cable, and wrong length antenna. can be fixed by cutting the antenna to the correct length, or by using an antenna tuner (not as good a solution, but many ham operators operate on multiple bands, so this is what most of them use).
3) damaged transmission line. look for bends or crimps in the cable that might short the outer shield to the center conductor, or breaks in the cable, dog chewed portions, etc... the fix is to replace the cable or at least the section that's damaged.
there are other things, pieces of metal too close or touching the antenna, rusted/corroded connections, assembly screws, etc...
also, keep in mind an antenna has to have two connections to the transmitter, hot and ground. a piece of coax connected to the transmitter and only having the center wire connected to a long piece of wire is not a good antenna. the shield has to either go to a grounding stake (if you are using a vertical monopole) or another piece of wire to counterbalance the element connected to the center wire.
there are formulas for figuring out element lengths for whatever frequency, and even on-line calculators if you are not good at math. i sometimes use a "guesstimate" using the following method:
frequency/wavelength are related inversely proportional and in 3:1 or 1:3 using meters and hundreds of Mhz so there's always a product of 300
so, 3 meters is the wavelength of 100Mhz, and 1 meter is the wavelength of 300Mhz
30 meters is the wavelength of 10Mhz, and 10 meters is 30Mhz
300 meters is 1Mhz and 100 meters is 3Mhz
also doing the same math for the 1,5's and 2's, etc can be figured out easily and extrapolated if you are ok with doing math in your head. then for single elements you divide the wavelength by 4, or divide by 2 for half-wavelengths. using this method i can get an antenna "in the ballpark" in my head.