The KIT generally consists of an (electrical insulator/thermal conductor), a Belleville domed washer, a shoulder washer a machine screw and a nut.
A "shoulder washer" is shown here: https://www.biscoind.com/RAF/5745-N-250-125-144
It's designed for a heat sink such as: https://www.mouser.com/ds/2/303/sink_ex-1076311.pdf
You can blind tap a hole in thick material if required. "blind tap" - A tapped non-thru hole. They are harder to do.
I don't know what your options are.
A "shoulder washer" is shown here: https://www.biscoind.com/RAF/5745-N-250-125-144
It's designed for a heat sink such as: https://www.mouser.com/ds/2/303/sink_ex-1076311.pdf
You can blind tap a hole in thick material if required. "blind tap" - A tapped non-thru hole. They are harder to do.
I don't know what your options are.