My current car has a good alarm, you can set its sounds/lights, I have it so the alarm is set when the doors are locked and unset when open, it makes no sound or light whatsoever on arm/disarm, in fact it only makes sound when its triggered, thats how I like it, I work shifts so I wouldnt want to annoy the heck out of everyone in the early hours with it, plus this flashing lights business I think just advertises to everyone that your car has just unlocked, not so good in a multistorey car park where hijackers might lurk.