If you put any load on the crystal, such as with the scope, you change its frequency. Is there an accepted and relatively easy way to determine its frequency more precisely in the MCU circuit?
Going back to this original question - the two terminals on the PIC are effectively IN and OUT - IN is high impedance and will be greatly affected by a scope probe - OUT is low impedance, and will be far less affected by a scope probe. Regardless you need to use at least a x10 probe , and a x100 will have even less effect.