When you get past the cartoonishly distorted depictions of the longitudinal waves and frequencies and pressures at the macro level and apply the principles to tiny variations, I think we really are pretty much on the same page on this.
You post title "A sense of scale" indicates you may know what is going on here but posted nothing about it. That reinforces my thinking that you are not interested in a answer but in keeping this thread going forever.
If one were to examine a tiny cross section of air from the speaker outward and plot one dot for each molecule you would construct the scatter graph. The cross section for the plot show is small by choice. It enables us to see the difference in molecular density.
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